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Raising a Son: Parents and the Making of a Healthy Man
by Don Elium, Jeanne Elium
Product Group: Book
Publisher: Beyond Words Pub Co (1992-03)
ISBN: 0941831701
EAN: 9780941831703
Dewy Decimal #: 649.132
Paperback: 256 pages
SKU: 122542
Condition: Very Good
Comments: 0941831701 Book free of markings. Cover shows light edge wear. Interior & spine evidence little to no use; overall, a very pretty copy. Your book will be carefully protected for transit in sturdy, weather-resistant packaging. We are prompt, efficient, communicative.
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Editorial Reviews
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Product Description
A guide to raising a male child describes the hidden problems of boy-specific needs, stresses the importance of the father's role in a son's development, and answers questions about male aggression, hostility, violence, and sexuality. Original. 20,000 first printing.
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Customer Reviews
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Not much help at all for single moms!
Rating  (1)
Date: 2008-10-20
I had ordered this book when my son was still a baby. I am a single mom by chance. I had started buying some books to try to get as much information as I could so that when the decisions I alone have to make start coming along I am more prepared and not off guard. This book made me cry and feel awful. I had to immediately throw it away, and I do not throw away books. I do not have a lot of men around in my life and his father is not involved and basically this books tells you if there are no men around for him to super bond with then you are bound for failure, I am to go in pursuit of men and make sure he goes into pursuit for men to bond and mimic! They state that I am just a woman and can only do so much for him. UGH! Please. If you are not a strong woman and feel you must have men in your life to make any and all decisions and feel you have nothing to provide in leading an incredible life by which your son can grow and thrive in, again without a man, then this is the book for you! I do not belive my son will become a helpless flower because he has only me in his life, according to them there is an age at which moms are supposed to bow out and become a silent supporting figure when boys start to turn into men. Cause don't we all just want our sons to be with women who are just quiet background figures in their lives? Please. Do not waste your time or money on this caveman dribble.
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Boys will be boys
Rating  (4)
Date: 2008-09-30
This was a pretty good book. It helped me understand that there are quite a few differences between raising a boy and raising a girl, aside from the obvious reasons. If you are a single mother (or the father is absent or not really involved) and are raising a boy by yourself, I would highly recommend this book.
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Highly misleading and not scientifically based
Rating  (2)
Date: 2008-03-13
It is unbelievable that two "therapists" wrote this unbelievabley skewed book. While there are things in the book that are helpful and supported by research, the misleading and unsupported "facts" are so rampant throughout the book that I found I could not stomach it. I picked the book up many times and always found myself stopping due to the sheer magnitude of misinformation I would run into.
The authors knowledge of domestic violence offenders and how they tend to treat their children is not addressed and in fact the authors are either extremely naive in this regard or just dead set on misleading the reader. I hope it is the former. But I must add that it is highly irresponsible to write a book and include information like this when one is clearly no expert on the topic at hand. And I know of which I speak as I am an expert on this topic.
Furthermore, the book implies that a boy will not be "OK" unless dad is around and there is absolutely not evidence for this. In fact, in recent years we have had two very impressive individuals not raised by their biological fathers, one a United States President and another a top Presidental candidate, Bill Clinton and Barack Obama. They may not be perfect but I have to say that they both appear to be doing pretty well. Note to the authors, good single moms know their boys need role models thats why they enlist the help of their brothers, fathers, cousin, baseball coaches etc. I strongly suspect that Bill and Barack had great mothers who knew that. A father who is a bad role model, ie, a perpetrator of domestic violence or other criminal, is typically NOT a great role model and can cause more harm then good, just like an abusive mother can. If you dont believe me check out the REAL research on this topic. Role models are great if they are good ones.
One must wonder what the authors agenda is here and I strongly suspect there is one. One could speculate but I will not waste my time.
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Help for this troubled mom
Rating  (5)
Date: 2008-01-06
My son left home to live with his father when he was 18. He ditched all scholarships, & plans for college just to be with his dad. I was devastated, felt like a bad mother,rejected, a failure as a parent. A good friend gave me this book that had helped her with her son. After reading it, I realized my son HAD to make a connection with his father, it was essential for his development. I still grieved for him, but I felt this was insight I needed in order to let him go in peace. This book is excellent, and I would recommend it to any parent of a boy. Now my sweet son is 30,is almost through college, completely on his own; and we have a better relationship than we have ever had. Thank you authors for writing this book, I feel like the Lord Jesus sent your book to me at a crucial time in his life and mine.
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Of no use at all
Rating (1)
Date: 2007-06-28
2 out of 2 customers found this reveiw helpful
After 2 daughters, I had hoped that this book would help me understand my totally foreign son. Instead, it gave generic, common sense, heard it all before child rearing advice that is easily applied to any child,whether male or female. I gained no insight as to why I find my son more challenging than my daughters were at his age,nor have I learned anything I hadn't heard before from "Reviving Ophelia" or any other revelatory parenting advice book. It was irksome to constantly see the author's ideas invoked as unique to raising boys, as if girls would not also benefit from the hardly original concepts of consistent discipline and active listening.
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